If so, husbands, find a quiet time and place and ask your wife these two simple questions:
1. "How would you rate the current state/health of our marriage on a scale of 1-10?" 10 being you should start your own marriage seminar, 1 being you desperately need to attend a marriage seminar. No negative numbers, please. Note, that it will probably be lower than your score. Don't start an argument about that!
2. Then ask her, "What do you think would improve our marriage?" Then consider doing just that. Women often have great relational insight.
[If the husband happens to be the more relational person in the marriage, then reverse this exercise]